Bridget McDonald - April 2013

'The risk of words unspoken'

Over the past two months I’ve been musing over the consequences of keeping the unspoken unspoken in couple relationships.

It seems it can take the closeness out of the relationship, and brings in the stress of losing that closeness. The atmosphere can feel thick, tense and yet the individual can feel lost. And I realise also how hard it is to talk about needs that are not met, including trying to make the message land in the way intended. When we care about our partner, we avoid hurting them. And so the cycle can be reinforced rather than re-constructed.

Over the next few months I’m going to keep musing on how to use the relationship to work on the relationship….ways to turn towards each other with these struggles, and how to do it softly.